Comments on: How To Deal With Painful Divorce or Break-Up: Understanding When Love Is Not Enough http://relationship-journal.com/2009/05/08/hello-world/ Dating Coach Mikko Kemppe Shares His Own Dating Experiences And Gives Dating And Relationship Advice And Tips Fri, 09 Jul 2010 02:04:04 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: Mikko, Does The 80/20 Principle Apply In Relationships? | http://relationship-journal.com/2009/05/08/hello-world/comment-page-1/#comment-559 Mikko, Does The 80/20 Principle Apply In Relationships? | Thu, 05 Nov 2009 05:12:50 +0000 http:/?p=1#comment-559 [...] This does not mean that you have to settle either. Sometimes a person is just not the right one for you. (To learn more of what I mean by this, read my article: “How Do You Know You Have Found The Right One?” or my other article: “Understanding When Love Is Not Enough.” [...] [...] This does not mean that you have to settle either. Sometimes a person is just not the right one for you. (To learn more of what I mean by this, read my article: “How Do You Know You Have Found The Right One?” or my other article: “Understanding When Love Is Not Enough.” [...]

]]> By: Mikko, I’ve Cheated On My Wife. What Should I Do? | http://relationship-journal.com/2009/05/08/hello-world/comment-page-1/#comment-538 Mikko, I’ve Cheated On My Wife. What Should I Do? | Thu, 22 Oct 2009 02:37:57 +0000 http:/?p=1#comment-538 [...] the rest of their lives together. To learn more about what I mean by this, read my article: “How To Deal With Painful Divorce or Break Up, When Love Is Not Enough,” and make sure also to read my other related article: “How Do You Know You Have Found The [...] [...] the rest of their lives together. To learn more about what I mean by this, read my article: “How To Deal With Painful Divorce or Break Up, When Love Is Not Enough,” and make sure also to read my other related article: “How Do You Know You Have Found The [...]

]]> By: How Do You Know You Have Found The Right One? | http://relationship-journal.com/2009/05/08/hello-world/comment-page-1/#comment-419 How Do You Know You Have Found The Right One? | Fri, 21 Aug 2009 10:08:55 +0000 http:/?p=1#comment-419 [...] It is only at times when we make mistakes or get hurt that we have the ability to grow. By learning to process our negative feelings and love others and ourselves despite the faults, it becomes possible for us to keep our heart open. It is also this process of keeping our heart open that allows us to cultivate our ability to know whether someone is the right or wrong life partner for us. To understand more fully how it is possible to love someone yet recognize that this is not the right partner for life, read one of my previous articles: “How To Deal With Painful Divorce or Break Up: Understanding When Love Is Not Enough.” [...] [...] It is only at times when we make mistakes or get hurt that we have the ability to grow. By learning to process our negative feelings and love others and ourselves despite the faults, it becomes possible for us to keep our heart open. It is also this process of keeping our heart open that allows us to cultivate our ability to know whether someone is the right or wrong life partner for us. To understand more fully how it is possible to love someone yet recognize that this is not the right partner for life, read one of my previous articles: “How To Deal With Painful Divorce or Break Up: Understanding When Love Is Not Enough.” [...]

]]> By: Cracker http://relationship-journal.com/2009/05/08/hello-world/comment-page-1/#comment-231 Cracker Wed, 29 Jul 2009 21:10:06 +0000 http:/?p=1#comment-231 Great idea, thanks for this tip! Great idea, thanks for this tip!

]]> By: Mikko, How Do I Get Over From Missing My Boyfriend? | http://relationship-journal.com/2009/05/08/hello-world/comment-page-1/#comment-227 Mikko, How Do I Get Over From Missing My Boyfriend? | Wed, 29 Jul 2009 19:59:48 +0000 http:/?p=1#comment-227 [...] always possible for you to wish the other person well from a place of love. As I say in my article: “How To Deal With Painful Divorce or Break-Up: Understanding When Love Is Not Enough” it is only from a place of love that you can truly know whether someone is the right one for you. [...] [...] always possible for you to wish the other person well from a place of love. As I say in my article: “How To Deal With Painful Divorce or Break-Up: Understanding When Love Is Not Enough” it is only from a place of love that you can truly know whether someone is the right one for you. [...]

]]> By: admin http://relationship-journal.com/2009/05/08/hello-world/comment-page-1/#comment-29 admin Tue, 16 Jun 2009 17:57:24 +0000 http:/?p=1#comment-29 Hi Gary, Thanks for your interest. I am currently working on it, and should be up-dating it soon. Do you have any specific questions? If you do, I would love to hear them and I could make a blog out of them, and you would help me at the same time. Thanks for your feedback! - Mikko Kemppe Hi Gary,

Thanks for your interest. I am currently working on it, and should be up-dating it soon. Do you have any specific questions? If you do, I would love to hear them and I could make a blog out of them, and you would help me at the same time. Thanks for your feedback!

- Mikko Kemppe

]]> By: GarykPatton http://relationship-journal.com/2009/05/08/hello-world/comment-page-1/#comment-28 GarykPatton Tue, 16 Jun 2009 07:32:07 +0000 http:/?p=1#comment-28 How soon will you update your blog? I'm interested in reading some more information on this issue. How soon will you update your blog? I’m interested in reading some more information on this issue.

]]> By: Yeni http://relationship-journal.com/2009/05/08/hello-world/comment-page-1/#comment-7 Yeni Thu, 28 May 2009 05:38:58 +0000 http:/?p=1#comment-7 Nice writing Mikko. I am sorry about your pain but I am also happy to know that you have such a positive outlook on life. Follow where your heart leads you. It is more painful to "settle" when you always feel that tug in your heart that "there must be something more". Fly high. My prayers are with you. Nice writing Mikko. I am sorry about your pain but I am also happy to know that you have such a positive outlook on life. Follow where your heart leads you. It is more painful to “settle” when you always feel that tug in your heart that “there must be something more”. Fly high. My prayers are with you.

]]> By: admin http://relationship-journal.com/2009/05/08/hello-world/comment-page-1/#comment-6 admin Tue, 19 May 2009 16:07:51 +0000 http:/?p=1#comment-6 Thanks for sharing about your experience Vivacious. <space> I am glad to hear that my story has helped you deal with your situation. It is often hard for people to understand the feelings of shame and quilt that a person who has decided to leave the relationship go through. But I do think we are all human and we make mistakes, often especially when we are following our hearts. It is often through those mistakes that in hindsight we learn our most valuable life lessons. <space> What has helped me to deal with my own divorce is the story of my mentor: Dr. John Gray. When he was about 30 years old he had been married for a few years to another relationship author. Ironically, together with his wife they had even been teaching relationship workshops about how to make love work. So once facing a divorce not only did he feel like he was losing his wife, but he felt like his job lost its meaning as well. After a painful divorce he felt betrayed, angry, and defeated. Alone in despair he yelled at God: "How can you do this to me? Nothing good cannot possible ever come out of this". <space> It was his painful divorce that was the catalyst for him to re-evaluate everything he thought he knew about relationships. It was from those lessons that he learned that he was able to write his book: Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. And now because of those ideas he has been able to help millions of people around the world to make their relationships more passionate and loving, and more importantly he has been able to create a very passionate and loving relationship with his current wife of almost thirty years. <space> Of course, I am not trying to encourage anyone to make mistakes. Nobody enjoys making mistakes. It is never easy to admit that we have made a mistake. But as we follow our hearts inevitably we are going to make mistakes. It is on those times of our mistakes that we need love the most. How can we grow and learn from our mistakes without love? <space> So be kind and love your-self during this difficult time. You deserve love and forgiveness from others, from your partner, and most importantly you deserve love and forgiveness from yourself. <space> With love and healing, Mikko Kemppe Thanks for sharing about your experience Vivacious.

I am glad to hear that my story has helped you deal with your situation. It is often hard for people to understand the feelings of shame and quilt that a person who has decided to leave the relationship go through. But I do think we are all human and we make mistakes, often especially when we are following our hearts. It is often through those mistakes that in hindsight we learn our most valuable life lessons.

What has helped me to deal with my own divorce is the story of my mentor: Dr. John Gray. When he was about 30 years old he had been married for a few years to another relationship author. Ironically, together with his wife they had even been teaching relationship workshops about how to make love work.
So once facing a divorce not only did he feel like he was losing his wife, but he felt like his job lost its meaning as well. After a painful divorce he felt betrayed, angry, and defeated. Alone in despair he yelled at God: “How can you do this to me? Nothing good cannot possible ever come out of this”.

It was his painful divorce that was the catalyst for him to re-evaluate everything he thought he knew about relationships. It was from those lessons that he learned that he was able to write his book: Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. And now because of those ideas he has been able to help millions of people around the world to make their relationships more passionate and loving, and more importantly he has been able to create a very passionate and loving relationship with his current wife of almost thirty years.

Of course, I am not trying to encourage anyone to make mistakes.
Nobody enjoys making mistakes. It is never easy to admit that we have made a mistake. But as we follow our hearts inevitably we are going to make mistakes. It is on those times of our mistakes that we need love the most. How can we grow and learn from our mistakes without love?

So be kind and love your-self during this difficult time. You deserve love and forgiveness from others, from your partner, and most importantly you deserve love and forgiveness from yourself.

With love and healing,
Mikko Kemppe

]]> By: admin http://relationship-journal.com/2009/05/08/hello-world/comment-page-1/#comment-5 admin Tue, 19 May 2009 15:16:11 +0000 http:/?p=1#comment-5 Thank you Amy for your comment. Thank you Amy for your comment.

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