Comments on: Want Sex? Should You Be Honest?

By: Long distance relationship

Long distance relationship — Mon, 11 Jul 2011 04:00:57 +0000

HI,

Its really brilliant post guys. I liked it.

By: Dear Mikko, How To Say No To Sex? | Dating Coach, Relationship Coach, Dating Advice, Dating Tips With Mikko Kemppe

Sat, 11 Sep 2010 01:20:53 +0000

[...] put things in perspective just a few months ago even after I wrote an article about how men should be perfectly honest about their intentions to what comes to sex, I personally made a mistake and failed to communicate [...]

By: mikkokemppe

mikkokemppe — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 18:41:09 +0000

Good comment Susan! I think it is important to be honest about your intentions also.

By: Susan

Susan — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 16:54:09 +0000

Kind of sounds like the plot of the movie 500 Days of Summer. Being upfront about what level in life you are at (emotionally and relationally) is very important, whether or not sex is involved. Every man I have gone out with, I have put all the cards on the table about where I stand and then seek to see where they stand at the moment. If it's not even on the same page as I, there's no point in going to far to go out with him. If he's looking for a full-fledged relationship, exclusive and all and I am not yet ready to be in that place, then we are not on the same page. We can continue to get to know each other or not, or even decide to “play” and have sex with no strings attached, as long as we both know there are no strings and no expectations, then one is being upfront and honest. Things can grow from there but if one is not upfront and honest, only frustration will grow from that if people are on different levels and expecting different things.

By: Dear Mikko, Is He Saying I Am Too Independent? |

Dear Mikko, Is He Saying I Am Too Independent? | — Wed, 30 Dec 2009 19:37:51 +0000

[...] For example, if the guy in question here just wanted to have sex, I believe that the most macho gentlemanly thing to do would have been simply to be honest and have enough balls to say so ☺. To see what I mean, read my article, “I Want Sex, Should I Be Honest?” [...]

By: Mikko Kemppe

Mikko Kemppe — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 21:05:48 +0000

Thanks for your comment Kara! I agree players are jerks !
You may also enjoy my article that I recently wrote: why men become players and why some women may be attracted to them:
http://relationship-journal.com/2009/08/10/why-some-guys-become-%E2%80%9Cplayers%E2%80%9D-and-why-women-are-often-attracted-to-them/

I think there are many women these days that don’t have that much trouble having just sex without expecting anything else from the relationship. But I agree that it can be often also very hard for women to do FWB and not feel something for the man. What do you think? Why are some women able to do the FWB and some are not? What makes it harder for women to do FWB compared to men?

By: KARA

KARA — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 01:52:21 +0000

What do you think? I think its impossible for a woman to do FWB and not feel something for the man.
Especially when the guy says all kinds of sexy things and is being naughty. Even if they say they dont want to commit, could mean their just not ready for marriage, doesnt say their not interested in u.
If there is any kind of attraction at all, its only normal for a woman to like this guy, and sometimes a woman doesnt realize he is playing her.
Players are smooth, charming, and oh that Smile they have.
I agree a man needs to be upfront, besides saying their not ready to commit. This could mean a number of things.
I knew a guy that recently divorced, acted like Divorce effected him, later found out he was a player, but didnt know in the beginning felt like he just didnt want to commit because his X had cheated on him.
Players are Jerks!!!!!!!!!

By: Want Sex? Should You Be Honest? |

Want Sex? Should You Be Honest? | — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 00:11:57 +0000

[...] In this video Mikko Kemppe gives a tip to guys who want to have sex, but are not ready for a committed relationship. To read the full article version of this video, click here. [...]

By: Mikko Kemppe

Mikko Kemppe — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 06:33:39 +0000

Hi AF,

Welcome to the Community and thanks for your great comment. So what you are saying is that it is impossible for women to just want sex without wanting or expecting a more serious long-term commitment from a guy, right? Could be true, anybody else care to comment?

By: AF

AF — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 04:08:54 +0000

There is no way around it. Either you are honest and the woman will lie to herself and think you really are interested in something more than sex, or you lie.
Either you are honest and she lies (to herself, and to you, when she says “oh I don’t want anything long-term either”) or you lie and she is honest (given information you presented her.)
Best possible outcome: you are honest, she hears you, and makes chase. You chase her and in the process, develop more long-term interest.