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By: When Is The Right Time To Have Sex? | Relationship, Dating, Divorce, Advice, & Expriences by Mikko Kemppe

Fri, 12 Mar 2010 22:49:03 +0000

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By: Mikko Kemppe

Mikko Kemppe — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 08:38:39 +0000

Hi Sheila,
Thanks for the good question. Yes, certainly there are also many men these days who give the choice to the woman to decide when is the right time for them to express love in its most intimate form. And yes, I also think this could potentially be a very good sign on his genuine intentions to wanting to have a healthy and loving committed relationship. However, sometimes this may also be a sign of insecurity on his part. Often times when a man has been rejected or when he does not feel very confident within himself, to avoid the risk of being rejected or a failure he may think it is a good idea to just leave it up to her to initiate and to make plans, whether it is about when to have sex or dating in general. But it really depends on the full context to determine whether him wanting you to make a decision about when to have sex is potentially a very good sign of a respectful man or a case of an insecure guy.

By: sheila chan

sheila chan — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 23:39:09 +0000

Dear Mikko,

You have written some of the most balanced insights regarding love and relationships. Relevant to this topic, as a woman I understand it is fine to be a little apprehensive going all the way but never to let fear alone rule my judgement. However, I am wondering what if the situation is the other way around. If it was the man himself who gives the choice on the woman to decide when is the right time for them to make love? Would this make a good value/factor to trust a man’s genuine intentions of wanting to establish a healthy, loving, sexual and committed relationship? As nostalgic as this may sound, but are there some kind of men who want their women to equally come to them having made full decision by their own free-will to express love in its most intimate form?

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Mon, 10 Aug 2009 09:28:22 +0000

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Mikko, Why Am I Attracted Only To Women I Cannot Have? | — Tue, 04 Aug 2009 16:21:54 +0000

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Mon, 13 Jul 2009 04:21:47 +0000

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By: Mikko

Mikko — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 18:27:17 +0000

Hi Arizona dater!

Thank you for your nice advice and feedback. Indeed I have not addressed how a guy who gets dumped before having sex with her is going to feel. In fact in my next article I am going to slightly address this issue. But, since you brought the subject up here, let me touch on in it here briefly. But just so you know keep on the look out for my next article: The Real Reason Women Are Often Not Attracted To “Nice Guys”.

The short answer on how you would feel if she dumped you is this: really shitty and like a fool . Your nightmare is to do everything right, to take her out on dates, to pay for her meals, to call to let her know you are thinking about her, and to always be polite and caring, etc., but after few months and no sex you end up her saying to you something like: “I really like you, but I would just rather be friends”, did I got it right?

You are right, there are no guarantees. And a big mistake especially a lot of nice and caring guys make is to make the women they are dating the center of their life and happiness. There is a big difference in being a nice and caring guy, and being a “needy” guy. All of the women intuitively understand the difference. A “needy” guy can be a big turn-off for women. So what I am warning here is that you don’t want to fall into that category. For a great fun article about the difference, I think you will enjoy an article that my dear friend Lauren Gray wrote: “He’s Clingy And I am Not Attracted To Anymore”

So to avoid your nightmare from happening, this is what I would suggest to you. Make sure your life is full with friends, hobbies, school, work, your spiritual life and initially concentrate on dating a lots of different girls for fun before getting too attached or committed to any particular one. If you want to have sex, but are not ready to commit, make sure to also read my article: “Guy’s What You Should Know Before Having Sex In An Uncommitted Relationship”.

By having a full life and by creating positive dating experiences you will ensure that you don’t get too dependent and attached to a particular outcome. Then once you have found the one you want to become more serious with, you will have the patience and confidence to make your dream scenario come through.

By: Arizona Dater

Arizona Dater — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 16:40:37 +0000

I agree with a lot of your advice to women, but something you don’t consider is how a guy is going to feel who gets dumped before he gets a chance to have sex with her. The more I have invested in a girl the more I want to have sex with her. My worst dating nightmare is doing everything I can to make a woman happy for two months and then finding out she’s never going to sleep with me. If I knew for a fact that she wasn’t going to break up with me and we would have sex at two or three months it would be ok, but how do I know she’s not going to reject me before we get to that point? There are no guarantees, after all.

There’s also the tease factor (even if it’s not intentional). . . it’s going to be psychologically hard for me if every time I make out with her I think “this might be the time” and it always turns out to not be the time.

Unless she was more special than any girl I have yet met and I knew she was really into me, the teasing and the increasing risk of a really hard break up are enough so that I believe I would give up on a girl at the six week mark.

My Advice: If you need to wait two, three, or four months to have sex, do a lot to show the guy you care and that the sex will eventually come. Give him presents, pay for the meal, introduce him to people in your life. Keep your clothes on when you’re making out.

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