Sometimes it is hard to accept and feel worthy of love and support. I remember, when my first real dream that I had been dreaming for years became a reality. I received a basketball scholarship to come to United States to play basketball on Division 1 from Finland.

But then all of sudden, I started having insecurities whether I am a good enough basketball player after all and whether I even deserve the scholarship or not. I started feeling like I should just stay in Finland. After all Finland was comfortable and what I had been used to.

But let me tell you. Moving to the United States although it was very uncomfortable, especially at first, and I had doubts whether I deserved to be here has been the best thing that I have ever done for myself.

Realize that it is normal to have doubts and feel weird about receiving love and support and what you deserve. The key is simply to be grateful and realize that you do deserve all of the love and support in the world.

So the next time your boyfriend tells you something nice, simply look him in the eye and tell him thank you and feel how grateful you are to have someone like him in your life. You deserve it!

Can you be a little more specific? How are you feeling weird and having trouble to reacting to too much interest or vulnerability? Wish you the best!

Thanks for asking! That is a good question. I would start by simply making sure you are not sharing too much of your vulnerable feelings with her. Make sure you have lots of friends, activities, and goals that you are pursuing in your life.

Hanging out with other guys who have similar goals is a good idea. Share some of your frustrations or worries about life with them instead. Take some time for yourself. Or if you need to cry to someone and something really stressful is happening in your life, go talk to a good therapist.

Then before you see her next time, make sure you are in a centered place and rather talk to her about your worries plan a nice date for her instead.

There is no need for you try to make her open up or to share her feelings at this point. Simply concentrate more on developing yourself, your goals, and your ambitions in life. And then when you do see her, make sure you are asking and being interested in her instead of sharing too much about yourself.

If you do this, soon she will come to see you as the stud you are again !!

Thanks so much for your precious advice, I m going a taff period with my gf and one of the mistake i ve done is being too nice, vunerable and swee as you advise to don t be and knowing on top that she told me need a strong man and taff but also want sweet as i m.

But now i ve been weak and cry in front of her and show that I ve been very concern about her comment taking personal so now she might develop what i don t want to become in her eyes.

So my question is how to get back being the strong man in her eyes, here to listen and hear and support her and not be the vulnerable man affected by her discussion and comment.

Can you advise me how to behave now to be that strong man in her eyes to ensure that I m primarily there for her to make it save for her to share her feelings.

So she does not have to worry about hurting his feelings.

So what do i have to do and how to behave to make her feels safe again enough to share her feelings without having to worry about hurting me or about me taking anything personally, so she will suddenly find me very attractive again ?

What can i change or do to make her see me again strong and not taking personally her feeling ?

How to behave so she stop see me weak ?

Many thanks for your answering as soon as you can, i ve read all your advise about apologyies to woman and i ve to admit it s very instructive and helpfull.

Best