Comments on: Can Salsa Dance Partners Be “Just Partners”? http://relationship-journal.com/2009/07/25/can-salsa-dance-partners-be-%e2%80%9cjust-partners%e2%80%9d/ Dating Coach Mikko Kemppe Shares His Own Dating Experiences And Gives Dating And Relationship Advice And Tips Thu, 26 Aug 2010 13:01:45 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: Dear Mikko, Why Salsa Dancers Cheat? | http://relationship-journal.com/2009/07/25/can-salsa-dance-partners-be-%e2%80%9cjust-partners%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1/#comment-606 Dear Mikko, Why Salsa Dancers Cheat? | Thu, 24 Dec 2009 22:51:54 +0000 http://relationship-journal.com/?p=477#comment-606 [...] Furthermore, to read whether I think it is even possible for salsa partners to remain “just partners”, see one of my other articles here: “Can Salsa Dance Partners Be Just Partners”. [...] [...] Furthermore, to read whether I think it is even possible for salsa partners to remain “just partners”, see one of my other articles here: “Can Salsa Dance Partners Be Just Partners”. [...]

]]> By: Anonymous http://relationship-journal.com/2009/07/25/can-salsa-dance-partners-be-%e2%80%9cjust-partners%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1/#comment-458 Anonymous Mon, 14 Sep 2009 19:02:44 +0000 http://relationship-journal.com/?p=477#comment-458 Great topic. I am single in the Salsa scene. I am open to meeting some one who could play a significant role in my life, but have found it difficult, even impossible.  I am a mature attractive woman of color and have no problem attracting a large variety of men dance partners, and as some have asked to be lovers as well.  I find the dancing and the energy created between you can be incredible (like mini affairs). I find the constant stimulus makes it all too easy for men and women to flirt with the idea of  sexual contact. I have been approached by attached, married and single men for years. There is an unspoken undercurrent , if you are connecting on the dance floor there is a connection on an intimate level. The casual manner that many men and women get together today seems to have created a" no rules attitude".  I have seen this attitude  backfire,  if you fell to the temptation then got together with a man from the scene sexually, it usually ruined the dance connection, as it became muddied with what is your future intentions? or I call it the now " ice-man treatment" when ever you are around, but trying to keep a backdoor open on occasion.  I would rather stay dance partners; which leads to being wary of connecting intimately with anyone in the scene, I have rarely found the maturity and communication skills developed enough to sustain a positive friendship.   Great topic. I am single in the Salsa scene. I am open to meeting some one who could play a significant role in my life, but have found it difficult, even impossible.  I am a mature attractive woman of color and have no problem attracting a large variety of men dance partners, and as some have asked to be lovers as well.  I find the dancing and the energy created between you can be incredible (like mini affairs). I find the constant stimulus makes it all too easy for men and women to flirt with the idea of  sexual contact. I have been approached by attached, married and single men for years. There is an unspoken undercurrent , if you are connecting on the dance floor there is a connection on an intimate level. The casual manner that many men and women get together today seems to have created a” no rules attitude”.  I have seen this attitude  backfire,  if you fell to the temptation then got together with a man from the scene sexually, it usually ruined the dance connection, as it became muddied with what is your future intentions? or I call it the now ” ice-man treatment” when ever you are around, but trying to keep a backdoor open on occasion.  I would rather stay dance partners; which leads to being wary of connecting intimately with anyone in the scene, I have rarely found the maturity and communication skills developed enough to sustain a positive friendship.  

]]> By: Mikko Kemppe http://relationship-journal.com/2009/07/25/can-salsa-dance-partners-be-%e2%80%9cjust-partners%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1/#comment-229 Mikko Kemppe Wed, 29 Jul 2009 20:36:08 +0000 http://relationship-journal.com/?p=477#comment-229 <p>Thank you for sharing that T!</p> Thank you for sharing that T!

]]> By: T http://relationship-journal.com/2009/07/25/can-salsa-dance-partners-be-%e2%80%9cjust-partners%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1/#comment-195 T Tue, 28 Jul 2009 08:18:39 +0000 http://relationship-journal.com/?p=477#comment-195 From my own personal experience, I have been involved with my dance partner. As you said, it is a great thing for couples to share the same passions and it was wonderful to be able to share the passion of dance with my ex-boyfriend. It brought us closer as a couple to share such an interest and made our dancing that much more great. We had great chemistry romantically so that easily translated to our dancing. On the downside, sharing the love of dance meant we were basically attached at the hip - we taught dance classes together, attended all dance related events together, and practiced dance together on top of that. While it was wonderful to spend so much time together, it meant not having much alone time for ourselves. I can't say that was a problem for us per say but I saw how it was a problem for other couples in the studio who were dance partners as well. I think the major downside to couples who are dance partners is that if there is ever a problem or conflict in that dance partnership, it also affects the romantic relationship. It's basically taking work problems home. And as you said, it's a lot easier for a person to get hurt by their dance partner if that dance partner also happens to be their significant other. It's a common occurrence for me to see dance partners bicker and I can only imagine how it affects dance partners who are together as a couple. I've seen how the stress of dance can be on couples and have seen couples break up - either professionally, romantically, or both. From my own personal experience, I have been involved with my dance partner. As you said, it is a great thing for couples to share the same passions and it was wonderful to be able to share the passion of dance with my ex-boyfriend. It brought us closer as a couple to share such an interest and made our dancing that much more great. We had great chemistry romantically so that easily translated to our dancing. On the downside, sharing the love of dance meant we were basically attached at the hip – we taught dance classes together, attended all dance related events together, and practiced dance together on top of that. While it was wonderful to spend so much time together, it meant not having much alone time for ourselves. I can’t say that was a problem for us per say but I saw how it was a problem for other couples in the studio who were dance partners as well.
I think the major downside to couples who are dance partners is that if there is ever a problem or conflict in that dance partnership, it also affects the romantic relationship. It’s basically taking work problems home. And as you said, it’s a lot easier for a person to get hurt by their dance partner if that dance partner also happens to be their significant other. It’s a common occurrence for me to see dance partners bicker and I can only imagine how it affects dance partners who are together as a couple. I’ve seen how the stress of dance can be on couples and have seen couples break up – either professionally, romantically, or both.

]]> By: Mikko Kemppe http://relationship-journal.com/2009/07/25/can-salsa-dance-partners-be-%e2%80%9cjust-partners%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1/#comment-191 Mikko Kemppe Mon, 27 Jul 2009 18:55:15 +0000 http://relationship-journal.com/?p=477#comment-191 I find the topic fascinating as well. It is interesting and complicated because on one hand it is good that couples have some shared interests, but on the other hand spending too much time together and not having separated lives from each other can easily become very stressful as well. Furthermore, it is so easy for us guys (and gals) to unknowingly become critical to our partner in a dance partnership, and when you are working so close to together it is very easy for one person to get his/her feelings hurt by the other. Being so close to dancers, what have you found to be best or worst thing about dancing for couples? I find the topic fascinating as well. It is interesting and complicated because on one hand it is good that couples have some shared interests, but on the other hand spending too much time together and not having separated lives from each other can easily become very stressful as well.

Furthermore, it is so easy for us guys (and gals) to unknowingly become critical to our partner in a dance partnership, and when you are working so close to together it is very easy for one person to get his/her feelings hurt by the other.

Being so close to dancers, what have you found to be best or worst thing about dancing for couples?

]]> By: T http://relationship-journal.com/2009/07/25/can-salsa-dance-partners-be-%e2%80%9cjust-partners%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1/#comment-187 T Mon, 27 Jul 2009 08:04:47 +0000 http://relationship-journal.com/?p=477#comment-187 You're welcome. My friend & I were listing the pros & cons for him as he is in the same situation - looking for a dance partner as well as a significant other - not necessarily all in one but wouldn't turn it down if that just so happened to be the case. I find the topic quite fascinating because I'm pretty much surrounded by dancers all day. Dance can pretty much be the best thing for people in relationships and can also be a bad thing for relationships. You’re welcome. My friend & I were listing the pros & cons for him as he is in the same situation – looking for a dance partner as well as a significant other – not necessarily all in one but wouldn’t turn it down if that just so happened to be the case. I find the topic quite fascinating because I’m pretty much surrounded by dancers all day. Dance can pretty much be the best thing for people in relationships and can also be a bad thing for relationships.

]]> By: Mikko Kemppe http://relationship-journal.com/2009/07/25/can-salsa-dance-partners-be-%e2%80%9cjust-partners%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1/#comment-185 Mikko Kemppe Mon, 27 Jul 2009 07:52:11 +0000 http://relationship-journal.com/?p=477#comment-185 Hi T, Thanks for your comment! Yes, I have experienced both as well, and I agree both definitely have its pros and cons. Hi T,
Thanks for your comment! Yes, I have experienced both as well, and I agree both definitely have its pros and cons.

]]> By: T http://relationship-journal.com/2009/07/25/can-salsa-dance-partners-be-%e2%80%9cjust-partners%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1/#comment-183 T Mon, 27 Jul 2009 02:39:17 +0000 http://relationship-journal.com/?p=477#comment-183 Great post Mikko! A friend & I were discussing the very same topic. From personal experience, I have been through both the just being dance partners and being in a relationship as well as dance partners. Both have its pros and cons for sure. It's great to share a common love for something and that love for dance can enhance both a friendship and romantic relationship. So I definitely agree that two people can just be dance partners and not be romantically involved. Great post Mikko! A friend & I were discussing the very same topic. From personal experience, I have been through both the just being dance partners and being in a relationship as well as dance partners. Both have its pros and cons for sure. It’s great to share a common love for something and that love for dance can enhance both a friendship and romantic relationship. So I definitely agree that two people can just be dance partners and not be romantically involved.

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