Comments on: He Is Just Not That Into You, Or Is He?

By: Riley411

Riley411 — Tue, 16 Nov 2010 03:05:34 +0000

and they say that guys are SIMPLE – maybe so, but not if they don't communicate.

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By: mikkokemppe

mikkokemppe — Sun, 11 Apr 2010 23:51:29 +0000

Hi Girly87,

These articles may also help you to make more sense out of your situation:
Here is the reason why many often pull away:
http://relationship-journal.com/2010/04/01/dear...
And whether you should text him or not:
http://relationship-journal.com/2010/01/03/dear...
And finally, whether you should call him or not:
http://relationship-journal.com/2010/01/02/shou...

I wish you the best!
-Mikko

By: girly87

girly87 — Sun, 11 Apr 2010 22:44:13 +0000

I love this article.. this is so like what I am feeling right now and I can relate the situation am i now like in the article.. i am sort of dating this guy and I like him but I am always the one who txt him for date and ask him when he is free but I don't want always to sound needy or desperate… he told me he really like me but sometime i txt him he just dont reply n that's confuse me sometime.. dont know whether he like me or he just want to have fun..

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How To Pursue A Man? | — Tue, 05 Jan 2010 21:29:18 +0000

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Should I Call Him Or Should I Not Call Him? | — Sat, 02 Jan 2010 20:03:50 +0000

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By: mikkokemppe

mikkokemppe — Fri, 25 Dec 2009 20:15:38 +0000

You are making a very good point that it is important for men not to become needy in dating, as it is a very big turnoff for women.

And it is unfortunately the really nice and sensitive men that often make this mistake. It is also important not to be a “wussbag” and get your feelings hurt too easily when a women rejects you or tells you no.

Like you implied it is a man's confidence that is attractive. And I agree, sometimes you have to set yourself apart from others to show that.

Thanks for sharing!

By: Michael Lee

Michael Lee — Fri, 25 Dec 2009 10:33:05 +0000

All of those reasons are valid for a guy not calling or texting too much. Speaking personally, I don't like calling or texting too much since I don't want to come across to the girl as a "needy wussbag". I borrow that terminology from another dating coach that I can't recommend too highly, David DeAngelo.

Again, only speaking for myself, I don't like to be in constant contact with girls that I like because I don't want to be cliche and unoriginal. I tend to go after girls that I am very sexually attracted to, but that usually means they are getting a lot of attention from other men as well. Because I want to set myself apart from my competition, I don't like to show too much interest too soon. I prefer to wait for the "green light" from girls like this. I need to know that such a girl is interested before I make my move, so to speak. If I get an indicator that the girl is interested, then I tend not to hesitate.

I only mention this because this was a reason that was not mentioned in this article.

By: Mikko Kemppe

Mikko Kemppe — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 22:05:17 +0000

Hi Honey, I think you are bringing up a good point. In many cases, it may also be true that guys who may be into a women but do not show enough interest for variety of reasons may not really be ready for a serious relationship. And I can also see how that could make some guys unsuitable for dating in your opinion.