The Secret To Getting A Guy To Do Anything You Want
Did you know that as a woman you hold a tremendous feminine power to receive almost anything you want from a man? Very few women know this secret. Well, get ready! In this post, I will reveal the secret only some women know and even fewer know how to apply to their lives. ☺
The truth is that you – yes, even you – hold this power. You’ve probably seen some women who have this magical way with men. It may even seem as if these women have some kind of magic spell. Part of you may feel bad for these men who look like they are under some kind of spell, doing almost anything their woman wants.
Could you be a slight bit jealous of these women? You may have asked yourself why they get everything and you don’t. Or maybe you’re just watching a happy woman who is in a satisfying relationship and is plain lucky to have found such a great guy. After all, if you had a guy who seemed happy to do everything you wish, you would be happy too.
Well, you too can learn how to motivate your man to do more for you. It’s a very basic skill that you can easily acquire. And the funny part is that often we men don’t realize or even care that we are being manipulated to make you happier.
But before I reveal the secret, take a moment to think about how good your mother was at receiving support from the men in her life. Chances are that unless you have learned new relationship skills, you are probably just as good as she was. Most of our present relationships skills were learned unconsciously over the years by observing and modeling our parents’ interaction. In a sense, most of us have almost 20 years of intense training in creating the same type of romantic relationship that our parents had, whether we like it or not.
Even if at some point in your life you have thought to yourself, “I would not want to have the same type of relationship that my parents have,” unless you unlearn certain behaviors and then learn new ones, it will be almost impossible for you to create a better relationship for yourself. Even if your parents had a great relationship, by learning new skills you will be even better equipped to bring more love and happiness into your life.
So, what is the secret to receiving anything you want from a man? As I have already alluded to in my article: “Dating Tips For Women: How To Set Limits To His Behavior,” the secret to receiving more from men is simply learning to appreciate and be grateful for what you already have, and at the same time continue to want and ask for even more. While this idea seems pretty simple, applying this is often easier said than done. But trust me, by applying this principle into your life, you will be guaranteed to receive more than you could have ever imagined.
So, let’s explore the first part of this equation: appreciating and being grateful for what you have. Men are motivated and inspired by success. The funny part is that whenever a man sees you happy he takes credit for it whether he’s had anything to do with it or not.
Whenever a man feels like you are grateful and appreciative for what he has already done for you, it inspires and motivates him to do even more. That means, when he feels successful in doing something, he is motivated to do more.
In fact, this is a universal truth. Examine this concept within yourself. Wouldn’t you prefer giving to someone who is appreciative rather than to someone who is ungrateful? Being grateful and appreciating the things you already have is a great magnet for attracting more into your life. This is the basic idea behind the Law of Attraction – a concept that is well explained in the popular book The Secret. By exuding positive energy out into the world, you attract more positivity into your life.
In practical relationship terms, this means that it is important to communicate your appreciation to your partner in an appropriate, correct way. For example, if you noticed that your boyfriend or husband picked up his socks and put them into the laundry basket instead of leaving them on the floor, by giving him a kiss on the cheek and saying thank you, you are guaranteed to motivate him to continue this behavior.
Or maybe you see him working very hard on a particular project to make money for the family. By saying how much you appreciate the money that he is making, you will continue to enlist even more of his love and support when you ask him to do something for you.
The second part of this equation encourages you to continue asking for more. As the adage goes, “As you ask, so shall you receive, and as you knock so shall the doors open.” Asking for more from a place of gratefulness and appreciation is like a magnet for more to come your way.
What is important is that when you ask your man for more, you honestly feel grateful for who he is and what he already does for you. It is often not only the words you use to express this, but also your tone and the feelings behind your requests that is just as important.
Realize that your husband or boyfriend is often ready and happy to help. But you have to ask. And the best way to ask a man to do something is to keep your request simple and brief. For example, if would like him to help you empty the trash, simply say: “Honey, would you please empty the trash?” No more is necessary.
You may have tried this and received a response like “Hold on, honey, I’ll do it later.” Because men tend to prioritize, many will think that emptying the trash is not very important and they will therefore feel unmotivated to do follow through. What they don’t realize is that although emptying the trash may not be that important to them, it may be very important to you. In fact, you may take his unwillingness as a personal rejection and feel hurt, while your husband or boyfriend may be completely clueless.
Realize that men’s willingness to help never has anything to do with how willing they are to make you happy. If a man thinks that emptying trash is not important to you personally and has nothing to do with how happy you may be as a result, he won’t see any reason to act immediately. And his timetable for this task may be very different from yours.
So, in this and in many other instances, for example, you will have to slowly train a man how to give you more and more support. In other words, you have to slowly demonstrate that by emptying the trash, he is actually contributing to your happiness and he is making a difference in your life. At this point you may be thinking I should not have to go through this trouble, why not just empty the trash myself? But believe me, little investing in motivating your men in this way will be well worth the returns you will be reaping later.
Realize that the reason he is not budging from the living room couch to empty the trash is because he just has not learned that you would honestly appreciate if he did so. After all, he may be thinking that emptying the trash would not contribute much to his happiness unless the smell got so bad that it traveled all the way to the living room.☺
The best way you can convey the importance of doing the task is to simply wait awhile, and after 15 minutes, put your request in again as if you are asking the first time. Say, “Honey, would you go empty the trash?” By this time, he will realize you have already asked twice. But he may still reply, “Sure, honey, I will do it soon.”
In this case, you simply repeat this procedure as many times as necessary until he goes and empties the trash. The key is to continue asking with the same tone of love and appreciation as if it were the first time. The moment after he goes and empties the trash is the time to make him to become the “trash man hero” of the house. And to do it, this is what you say , “Thank you so much for taking the trash out, it feels so clean in here now.” Again, you may be thinking well this is just too much work for the trouble. But trust me, working on your relationship in this way will bring you great rewards later.
By recognizing and appreciating his efforts, after some time he will start to remember how happy a cleaned trash can makes you feel, and eventually he may start to empty it before you even have to ask him. So, try this technique and you will hold the secret to getting a guy to do anything you want. And stay tuned, as soon I will teach you a technique that will be much easier than this one and even more effective.
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