You have keenly pointed out the logical next question . I think that should be my next blog post because that is actually a really good question. My short answer partly comes back to considering how appreciated this fellow feels in the relationship and the way she makes her request for his help. Small differences in the way the request is made can actually make a huge difference.

For example, if she asks: “Hey sweety, could you empty the trash?”, and he answers: “Sure”, but then never does, this could be partly because the way she made her request. If she used the word could instead of the better word would, for example, he might have automatically thought to himself without much hesitation or even considering her hidden request: “well, sure I can”. But in his mind he might be thinking that you really have not even asked him to do anything, you have only really asked if he is able to, so therefore he can justify not actually following through.

So while he may be unconsciously or consciously thinking this, you might have at the same time interpreted his answer as a promise to do whatever it was you requested. But we are just skimming the surface of this idea and there may be other reasons as well, and we can explore more of those on one of my future blogs! Thanks again for your great comment!

Thanks for your comment again. You have a beautiful outlook on life and you are right on understanding the article. Come back and let us know how it goes if you try any of the ideas on any of these articles. We always love to hear from you.

This is another positively surprising insight and truly worth a try. Now I realised that there are some great benefits to start accepting and understanding that: men are not uncooperative or not proactive, men are simply different from women. They may appear uninterested to initiate help, but we women should not discount how “happy and proud” they actually feel for just putting a smile on our beautiful faces. I also inferred that by asking, women are giving men the opportunity to make themselves “heroes” like they always wanted to be. Relationships are all about two people who are committed to learn, unlearn and relearn over and over again.

I look forward to more of your follow-up posts on similar issues soon. Thank you for all your helpful articles. Keep them coming!