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One of my regular readers asked a great question. As I was answering her question my answer started getting longer and longer, so I decided I would just make her question into blog post to share it with all of you instead ☺. Here was her question: Mikko, which between the two dating methods: multiple dating or one-at-a-time dating would you recommend for people whose purpose is to seek long term relationship?

-Sheila

Hi Sheila,

What a great question. I would recommend the multiple dating method, especially if you have the tendency to get too attached to a guy too soon. Here is why. The benefit with the multiple dating method is that it is easier for you to not get too attached to a one particular outcome. At the same time it is often easier for you to set boundaries when you learn not to take rejection so personally.

For example, say a guy tells you that he wants to have sex with you after the second date, but you don’t really feel that you are ready. If this is the only guy you are seeing you might feel more attached to the idea of trying to make this particular relationship work and to give in to his suggestion of having sex when you really don’t want to.

By dating multiple guys at the same time, it often becomes easier for you to set boundaries and limits and not to sacrifice what you really want out of a relationship or dating. This way it becomes easier for you to develop your skill to stay open to what a guy has to offer to you without getting too needy or without starting to expect more from a guy than he is really able to offer to you.

For the purposes of ensuring a good long-term relationship, it is this ability to appreciate for what you are already receiving from a man while continuing to communicate your needs and wants for even more that will build a solid foundation for a great long-term relationship.

As long as you are not in an exclusive relationship and you are honest and tell your dates that you are also seeing other people you should be just fine.

Most guys should not have a problem with it, especially as long as you also communicate to them that you are really enjoying getting to know them and you are having fun in their company.

And if they do have problem with you dating more than one person at a time this could actually be an early warning sign of jealous or insecure man that you would not want to be dating anyway.

To learn more about how to potentially read some of those warning signs go read a very entertaining article with full of wisdom that my very good friend Lauren recently wrote about jealous boyfriends by clicking here.

And if your guy does have problem with you seeing two or three other guys at the same time, it should become easy for you to just say NEXT in line please .

What do you think? Share your thoughts. Have you dated multiple people at the same time? What is your experience? Which dating method do you prefer, the multiple dating or one-at-a-time and why?

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