How To Pursue A Man?
Have you ever asked yourself how to pursue a man or whether you should even pursue one? Maybe you met a guy that you really liked, but was just not sure how to approach him. Maybe you saw him at your school, at your work place, your salsa dance class, or your local grocery story. Something about him made you think to yourself: “Wow, he is really cute” or maybe you even said to your friend: “Now that guy is hot”.
You begun to wonder: “Now how could I get to date this guy or get him to be attracted in me?” If you are like most women, you probably have.
And I already know what some of you might be thinking: “A woman should not pursue a man. A real man should be the one to pursue, and if a guy is not calling or pursuing it means that he is just not that into you and so there is nothing a woman can or should do about it.“
While I do agree that it is wise to let the guy to be the one who does the pursuing the truth is that the question of how to pursue a man will still remain in many woman’s mind. The reality is that in the 21st century many women are asking themselves: “What if I want to pursue a man, why should not I, and if I choose to do it, how should I go about it?
After all you can’t expect a prince charming to come sweep you off your feet if all you do is sit and wait at home. At the very least you have to be willing to take some kind of course of action to get on a date with a guy, right?
Or what if the guy that has sparked your interest is a bit on the shy side, should you just wait forever for him to man up to come approach you? And I know what you some of you might be thinking: “No, she should just disregard this guy as a loser and wait until another comes along”.
But what if in your heart you feel this little nod that is telling you that this guy may be the right guy for you. Should you just disregard it because he maybe clueless as to how to properly pursue a lady? Should you just disregard every guy that seems nice, but whom are just not that skilled in the picking-up women department?
So before I go to tell you my secret on how to pursue a man, let me say this.
All women have a tremendous feminine power, yes I said all women and that means you are included, which when cultivated has the power to make a man climb mountains to get to you. And the more you learn to understand men in a positive way, the more of this feminine power you will develop.
But let’s not get side tracked. So what is the secret to how to pursue a guy?
It is to learn the age-old art of flirting.
Through out history, women have been pro-active in the pursuit of men through learning to flirt. Some of the ways to flirt can be very subtle like walking past him and glancing him into his eyes while you are in a dance club, while others can be more direct like giving him your hand as a gesture for him to take the lead to ask you to dance with you.
Now obviously, it goes without saying that you might just want to dance with the guy, but if you are also interested in him that is a great start.
As a general rule when flirting, the attitude you want to present is one that says: “Hmmm, you might be the one to make me happy”. For example, let’s say you saw him at a party. Position yourself so that he can see you. Glance to his way and try making some eye contact. Brush your hair and when you see that he noticed you, smile to him ☺. Turn back and let him continue to gaze you. After a moment look back at him to see whether he is still looking at you. If so, look to him in the eyes again for a moment.
Though these age-old flirting techniques may sound cheesy and outdated to some, the truth is that by giving a man messages that he can make you happy or that he is making you happy is very attractive. When a man sees a happy women looking at him, it always starts the process of awakening his confidence to come or to continue to pursue you further.
And if after awhile he still has not come to introduce himself or did not get your clues, find a good moment and make sure that at some point you end up either sitting or standing next to him. Glance at him in the eyes and ask him for what time it is. Be appreciative and thank him when he tells you. Stand there for a while and give him some time to formulate a good question in his mind to spark some conversation.
As a side note, the irony is that sometimes the really nice guys whom really like you and would like to pursue you have the hardest time to muster up the confidence to take the steps to do that.
The truth is that men’s brains truly are different from women’s. For example, the stronger a man’s feelings often are, as is often the case with a nice sensitive guy that really likes you, the less ability men often have to think or talk.
So while the guy who does not really care about (and may not have any feelings for you) is able to deliver some smooth pick-up lines with confidence, the guy who really cares about you is standing there speechless frozen in fear.
As a conclusion, while I think the explanation that he is just not that into you may in many cases be true, it fails to acknowledge the reality that maybe if you had done something differently he might still be into you.
Pursuing men through learning the art of flirting will awaken your feminine power to attract what ever you want in life and will also help bring out the best in men. As I am sure we can all agree, after all it is you women who are the catalyst and inspiration for changing this world for better. So go out there and flirt and make sure to have fun time doing it 
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This blog post was inspired by one of the many heated and fun discussions on my facebook page. To join the conversations, click here. Or come back and visit often as more flirting tips and articles on what men are really looking for in a woman will follow soon.
In the meanwhile, what do you think about the question: “How To Pursue A Man?” Is there an appropriate time and place for women to pursue a man? Should women flirt? And where goes the line between flirting and pursuing?
