Comments on: How To Pursue A Man?

By: Bassdrop9

Bassdrop9 — Sat, 04 Dec 2010 08:15:39 +0000

i dont think you can automatically tell unless you saw the guy with his girlfriend, i think by starting to talk to guy, flirting, and being natural with him eventually you'll come into a conversation about his relationship status.

By: Diana

Diana — Sat, 04 Dec 2010 04:21:55 +0000

What if the guys taken? How can you tell who's single and who's not. We should all wear relationship statuse name tags lol I mean the guy could react out of friendliness. OR what if he turns out to be really creepy once you two start talking? I've experienced that. He looked SO good. But was FAR from good.

Maybe you're right about guys being speechless and can't think when they like someone. Couldn't get a single conversation out of him. All he did was stare at me. I ask him what his interests are and all he says is “job, school and you” dude wanted to marry me. Sheesh. I would tell friends about him and they would say bring up kids that always scares them off but I would tell them that he's already brought it up.

By: Bbzstuff

Bbzstuff — Tue, 16 Nov 2010 15:01:57 +0000

This is fascinating information, thank you for teaching me this age old secret. I always wondered how to flirt with a man. Ok, now how do I flirt in an on-line dating service? I have over 400 matches since I joined this labor day weekend. I am having a good time answering and asking questions. Haven't physically met anyone yet,not quite ready. wait til a guy views my profile, before viewing his? Should I view, but ask no questions? is that cyber flirting? Should I view& just say hi?

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By: mikkokemppe

mikkokemppe — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 18:01:41 +0000

Hi Sheila,

Great question, does a man appreciate a lady who asks exclusivity before sleeping with him? I think the answer could be yes and no. If he only wants to have sex then probably not, but if he is looking for a serious relationship and you want to take things slowly and ask to be exclusive before jumping to bed, then yes, you would be likely only to earn his respect even more for stating your wants.

Now having said this, it is also really in all in the way you do it. What I mean is that if you make demands, sound resentful, or annoyed that he wants sex and make him wrong for wanting it before exclusivity, then no, a guy would not necessarily appreciate it. But in this case it really has nothing to do with your request, but all in the way you communicated your wants to him.

Guys ultimately always want just to make you happy and for the most part is are always happy to go along with you. Just make sure you state your wants in a loving and trusting way.

By: mikkokemppe

mikkokemppe — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 17:52:54 +0000

Very nice clarification Stealtheshow. I completely agree!

By: sheila chan

sheila chan — Mon, 22 Feb 2010 09:54:09 +0000

Belated happy Valentines day Mikko,

As a man, do you appreciate a lady who asks for exclusivity after dating for a while and before sleeping with him? I would like to clear things out that the purpose of suggesting for exclusivity is to be able to give a 100% of herself and personal efforts for the relationship. I believe there are ladies who offer exclusivity because they choose to stand in a position of integrity and seek the same values from their special someone.

I wonder whether men would be able to see the light from this proposition? Or just see the lady as someone offering a selfish ultimatum.

Kindly give tips on how a lady can offer exclusivity in the most positive way.

More power!

By: mikkokemppe

mikkokemppe — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 21:27:14 +0000

Thanks for the comment!

By: stealtheshow

stealtheshow — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 19:58:14 +0000

There is no question if he is attracted to her, he will pursue. When he is completely not attracted to her, no matter what she does he may not react. But a lot of times he is just into “may be, I dont know” type of feeling or sometimes he hasn't even noticed her yet, in these cases if she is really into him and if she gives a little nudge by either initiating or making a gesture for him to initiate a conversation, it could flip the reaction either side including he might actually feel the attraction now.

I believe everyone must pursue what they like or want regardless of gender; you have nothing to loose, worst case you would find out he was in “completely not attracted” category. So what, at least you have him out of your system now and you can move on instead of keep wondering whether he is attracted to me and whether he would ever approach me.