How Long Should I Wait To Call Her?
Have you ever thought to yourself: ”How long should I wait to call her?” You went out on a first date with her. You took her out to try something exciting like salsa dancing or maybe you went out for a cup of tee. You two really connected and had a great time together. After the date you gave her a nice hug or a kiss of goodbye and told her that you would call her later.
Now the next day you are wondering: “How long should I wait to call her?”
You don’t want to seem like some desperate needy guy and call her the next day after your date, but on the other hand, you don’t want to wait too long and just seem like a jerk either.
Before I tell you my secret to calling the exact right time every single time, guaranteed ☺, let me tell you a little bit about women even with a small risk of offending some of them.
First of all, many women are very insecure about themselves when it comes to dating. We men also often get insecure about dating and feel bad about feeling rejected, but if you multiple that by ten to a hundred times, you will begin to understand how much a woman fears to be rejected for who they are.
A woman’s entire self-esteem is often built around the quality of her relationships. And one of the worst fears many women have in the dating arena is to reveal whom they are only to be rejected. This is why many women don’t enjoy the dating process and some even loathe it.
As a disclaimer, if you are a woman reading this I am not in anyway trying to suggest here that men are somehow superior to women. I am simply trying to make men understand that women (with exceptions of course) often have different sensitivities than men. While the worst fear for most women is to end up unloved and to live their life alone, the worst fear men have is to end up unneeded and living without any purpose.
But let’s get back to the article.
The reason I am explain this to you is this. If you have had a great first date this is what you should do.
And here it is. A big secret to having a successful first date with a woman:
Always call her the next day after your first date.
This will in many cases set you miles apart from your other dating competition ☺.
I know what some of you might already be thinking: “But come on Mikko, doesn’t that just make me look like one of those desperate needy men and just turn her off?”
No, in fact it can have exactly the opposite effect and make you look more confident and attractive.
And here is how.
When you call her the day this is what you say: “Hey Susan, I just thought I give you a call to say that I had a really good time with you.”
You can also ask her couple of questions like how did you like the salsa dance club or tea place. Let her talk about it for a moment.
Then depending on your life situation and when you think you want to plan the next date, just say something like: “I am going to be a little busy with work/school for the next few days, but I will call you later this week.”
That’s it. Simply say goodbyes and hang up.
If you do this you will probably get more points for calling her back the day after your date than you did from your actually date.
By simply saying to her that you had a great time with her (it’s always better to make a compliment about her rather than to say you had a good time in general) will make her feel respected and adored. And as a result you will begin to look even more attractive in her eyes.
The other reason she will appreciate you calling so much is that by doing so you will relieve her from having to rack her brain trying to figure out whether you liked her or not and whether she is ever going to hear from you again.
Remember, you don’t have to have a plan for the next date nor do you have to have anything to talk about. Simply give her a quick call to ask her couple of questions about the date and let her know that you had a good time with her.
In fact, the less is often better in this case. And if you have a tendency to start talking to women on a phone a lot right away, just make sure you don’t fall in to the desperate and needy category, as that can actually be a very big turn-off.
To make sure you don’t fall in to what I call the “nice guy trap” read my article: “The Real Reason Women Are Often Not Attracted To Nice Guys”.
And there you have it.
But hey, what if you had a bad date? What should you do then? To learn exactly what to do, make sure to come back again soon ☺.
In the meanwhile, what do you think about the question: “How long should I wait to call her?” Share us what has worked for you and what you would recommend?
