Comments on: How To Break Up With Someone? http://relationship-journal.com/2010/02/15/how-to-break-up-with-someone/ Dating Coach Mikko Kemppe Shares His Own Dating Experiences And Gives Dating And Relationship Advice And Tips Wed, 01 Feb 2012 05:21:43 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: mikkokemppe http://relationship-journal.com/2010/02/15/how-to-break-up-with-someone/comment-page-1/#comment-660 mikkokemppe Tue, 16 Feb 2010 01:31:26 +0000 http://relationship-journal.com/?p=1456#comment-660 Hey Jacob! Thanks for commenting. I really like your idea of observing the quality of your other relationships to gauge how secure you might feel with your significant other. I agree that the more we know ourselves and the more secure we are with ourselves the easier it becomes for us to choose the right partner for us and to feel confident that our relationship will work. <br><br>I also agree that for a relationship to work both has to approach it with 100% commitment and passion that it will work. Do you think it is ever possible to think that you are committing to a relationship 100% and find out later that you were actually still not ready? Or what do you think about a situation where you find out that the other person has not committed themselves to the relationship 100%? <br><br>Thanks again for commenting. We hope to hear from your wise perspective again soon! Hey Jacob! Thanks for commenting. I really like your idea of observing the quality of your other relationships to gauge how secure you might feel with your significant other. I agree that the more we know ourselves and the more secure we are with ourselves the easier it becomes for us to choose the right partner for us and to feel confident that our relationship will work.

I also agree that for a relationship to work both has to approach it with 100% commitment and passion that it will work. Do you think it is ever possible to think that you are committing to a relationship 100% and find out later that you were actually still not ready? Or what do you think about a situation where you find out that the other person has not committed themselves to the relationship 100%?

Thanks again for commenting. We hope to hear from your wise perspective again soon!

]]> By: jacobroig http://relationship-journal.com/2010/02/15/how-to-break-up-with-someone/comment-page-1/#comment-659 jacobroig Tue, 16 Feb 2010 00:01:11 +0000 http://relationship-journal.com/?p=1456#comment-659 Mikko, I do agree that openess and honesty are the right place to come from, I would have to include that even if you do all of the things it may not be you. I always say that open communication and really knowing who you are and what you want, like, dislike and need out of a relationship is paramount to knowing if someone is "the right one".<br><br>I am sure you agree that the less insecure we are the more secure our relationships are. A good test is to look at your other relatinships and see if they are superficial or are they strong relationships. How open are you and how willing are you to expose those things that make you uncomfortable? Once those reasons have disappeared the decision to get in to a relationship is clearer and the decision comes from a more confident side of us, thus it has a much better chance at not going far before the question "can this work", comes to the surface.<br><br>Lastly a serious or long term relationship has to be approached with passion and the sense that we are not thinking or looking for a "plan B". in relationships or business this does not work. If we approoach this as I am committing 100% and there are no other options we are more apt to stand up and be accountable, with no options it is a choice where people are willing to fight through the things that we let get big and become more willing to fight for what we wanted in the begining and saw in this person. When there is no choice and you are willing to give it everything you have, there will always be a win win. It may not be the relationship for life but there will always be admiration and love for that person. I thank you for allowing me to expand on this message. Mikko, I do agree that openess and honesty are the right place to come from, I would have to include that even if you do all of the things it may not be you. I always say that open communication and really knowing who you are and what you want, like, dislike and need out of a relationship is paramount to knowing if someone is “the right one”.

I am sure you agree that the less insecure we are the more secure our relationships are. A good test is to look at your other relatinships and see if they are superficial or are they strong relationships. How open are you and how willing are you to expose those things that make you uncomfortable? Once those reasons have disappeared the decision to get in to a relationship is clearer and the decision comes from a more confident side of us, thus it has a much better chance at not going far before the question “can this work”, comes to the surface.

Lastly a serious or long term relationship has to be approached with passion and the sense that we are not thinking or looking for a “plan B”. in relationships or business this does not work. If we approoach this as I am committing 100% and there are no other options we are more apt to stand up and be accountable, with no options it is a choice where people are willing to fight through the things that we let get big and become more willing to fight for what we wanted in the begining and saw in this person. When there is no choice and you are willing to give it everything you have, there will always be a win win. It may not be the relationship for life but there will always be admiration and love for that person. I thank you for allowing me to expand on this message.

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