Hello Mikko,

During coffee with my guy friends, I heard them all jokingly "complain" about how much it costs them to go out on dates. Now this makes me curious how a man actually feels for paying dates (like spending on museum tickets, theather plays or dinner)? I wonder whether men are really happy when asking to date the ladies afterall.

Hope to hear from your personal viewpoint on this concern. Thank you ahead of time for your insights.

All the best always!

Yes, men are happy to ask ladies out to date, even if they join together to "complain" about the cost of dating.

Men complaining about the cost of dating is sort of equivalent to women getting together and "complaining" about having to give so much to their dates and not receiving enough back. Does this mean that women don't enjoy giving to a man? No, not necessarily. It just means that they feel resentment that they have not received enough in return. The same is true with men with a little twist.

The simple reason men complain about the cost of dating is that they feel unappreciated. Men are happy to give as long as they feel appreciated. And what is that appreciation? Just to hear you say thank you and to see a smile on your face. As long as you shower a man with appreciation for his efforts to make you happy, men are happy to make sacrifices and pay for your dates.

Sometimes, men might also complain because they don't have their life in order or when times are particularly tough on the financial department. But what many men also need to realize is that to have a beautiful and wonderful date, you don't necessarily need a lot of money.

So make sure to tell these men to come visit my blog for some ideas for how to have a great date without spending that much money (hmmm.. a good blog topic I need to write soon). :)

But as an advice for you, just remember to appreciate and thank a man for his efforts to make you happy or to pay for a date. And when times are especially though give him some hints about some inexpensive date ideas that you think you would enjoy to help him feel appreciated.

Wish you the best also!

Hi Mikko,

Thank you for sharing your insights. I am honestly disheartened by the commentaries I heard but chose to believe what you've explained here.

Kindly share any tips so a lady would feel "comfortable" to convey what she wants without fear of being a pain to a man's budget.

I think any lady would be unhappy to be mistakenly viewed as a freeloader or someone who is only after a man's dime.

Thank you ahead of time for your responses.