My Recent Embarrassing Dating Moment – I Fell On My Face
I thought I would share a recent embarrassing moment from one of my recent dating adventures.
It is a lot of fun for me to write and coach others about relationships. And it is very easy for me to sit in my ivory tower to ditch out advice to those in need.
But I have recently realized that by simply writing about relationship and dating advice from a status of an expert somewhat removes my ability to share with you how I personally try to practice what I preach.
So this time rather than writing another article with advice, I am going for the first time try to take you with me to experience how I personally try to implement some of the things that I advice in my own life.
Besides you will see the reality that a date with a dating coach doesn’t always go perfectly either ☺.
So, with my date’s permission, here I go.
We met through Match.com. Our first two dates at this point had gone great. On our first date we met for a cup of coffee and ended it with a short walk together for some ice cream. The second time we met we went to do some salsa dancing, partly so I could try to impress her with my smooth footwork ☺ (By the way salsa dancing is a great idea for a date whether you have fancy footwork or not, and if you live in the bay area, come check out some of the salsa dance lessons and events that I personally host).
So this was our third date. After consulting one of my good friends for some ideas for a date ☺. I decided I would take her to ice-skating. So we met in the city of San Francisco and hopped on to BART, which took us right beside the ice skating ring in Oakland.
So far so good ☺.
We got to the skating ring and rented our skates. I helped her get her skates on (extra point for me 
) and we were now ready for some ice time. But as soon as I stepped on the ice, I realized something was seriously wrong.
Being from Finland I know how to ice skate, or so I thought. But as soon as I tried to take off a little faster, my skates stopped and my body jerked forward. What I realized was that all of the skates were unisex, meaning that on the front they had the breaks that usually are only on women’s skates. I had never skated with the brakes on the front.
Partly, I think it was just God’s way of slowing me down so I could impress her more by concentrate on making sure she was feeling comfortable rather than me trying to impress her with my skating skills.
This actually brings me to my dating tip number one for guys.
You will always score much more points with a woman concentrating on making sure she is feeling comfortable and having a good time rather than by trying too hard to impress her with any of your skills, possessions, knowledge, or wisdom.
And don’t take me wrong, being confident and skillful in many areas of life is very attractive, but in the end it is your ability to care for her that matters even more.
And truth to be told, I probably got a little too carried away on the salsa dance floor on our second date anyway, so this was for good balance ☺.
So there we were skating slowly, holding hands, telling stories and laughing (I was scoring some more points).
Everything was going perfect. We were enjoying the moment and our time together.
I think by now we had been skating so slow for so long that I had forgotten that there even were any kind of brakes in the front of my skates. And I guess some testosterone had been building up in my body, because all I started thinking about was that I wanted to do some faster ice-skating and that I wanted to impress her.
I took a couple of strong strides and got off to a pretty good speed, so I decided to push forth a little more. This time I really pushed my skates to the ice hard and as soon as I did I felt a big jerk. I realized what had happened. I had pressed the break to the ice and off I went flying my hands forward like a superman only to fell on my face.
So there I was lying on the ice hurt while she and the supervisor of the skating ring came to check if I was ok ☺. I was embarrassed.
Assuring my date that I was fine (really I was not, my leg that landed first was hurting like crazy ☺), we went on to do some more skating back to slower speeds ☺.
But the moral of the story is this.
Guys you don’t necessarily have to impress a woman on a date by appearing to be perfectly smooth and confident in your manners and actions. By being able to be humble and laugh at yourself when you make mess-ups and mistakes allows her to also feel even more comfortable around you.
Ultimately what is the most attractive is to learn to be your authentic self. So if you are scared to go out and to plan a date because you think you might make a fool out of yourself, remember that by concentrating more on making sure she is having a good time you will relieve yourself from the pressure of trying to somehow impress her. And by doing this she will probably be even more impressed with you as a result anyway.
I wish you much success in your dating and love life!
-Mikko Kemppe
P.s. What was even funnier and more embarrassing was what happened after the skating ring as we went to a Japanese restaurant and got kicked out, but I will save that story for a later time!
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