Dear Mikko,

I vowed to stay Celibate until I found the person I was going to marry. Three years ago I found a great guy who respected my vow. Well, after a few months into dating that vow was broken many times, but we felt guilty each and every time because we made a promise to each other and most importantly with God. Being that we’re both religious we’ve done our best to refrain from being intimate and so far so good.

However, it has now almost been a year since…

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Dear Mikko,

I once dated this one guy briefly. I have never slept with him, but there is a lot of sexual chemistry between us. We are now friends. He has a girlfriend, but sometimes we start chatting on Facebook and he is very flirtacious with me. He is very good looking and I know I have a soft spot for good-looking guys. He keeps reminding me how sexy I am and what a great time we used to have together. I feel like the conversations we are having are little inappropriate…

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Dear Mikko,

I met a guy with whom I have great chemistry. We have shared great time together. We have shared passionate kisses, stimulating conversations, and laughter. I once told him that I wanted us to see if we can nurture this relationship into something mesmerizing and he agreed. It’s been a great 4 weeks, now he is pulling back. At first I was a little perplexed and tried to understand. Now I just feel a bit hurt, and I am not sure about our growing friendship and the future of…

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Here is what some of you have been waiting for ☺. A short dating up-date from my personal life . My date and I went to a nice jazz club last Saturday and they had a killer band playing. I used my strategy to compliment her (see my previous post: How To Compliment A Woman?) and scored some brownie points (At least so I hope ☺).

After the jazz club she wanted to go salsa dancing, so we headed to a local salsa club (I think she just wanted to see my…

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Dear Mikko,

Why is it that men seem to come in only two extremes, either they are talking serious commitment after first coffee date or they’re just completely non-committal? Where’s the happy medium?

And the follow up question my friends and I have been asking lately is: “where’s the alpha male?” I dated this one guy a couple of years ago and we were hanging out at a restaurant having drinks. I went to the restroom and when I returned he told me that it looked like I had a message…

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Have you ever thought about dating someone with a different racial or cultural background? Maybe you saw her in a salsa dance lesson and thought to yourself: “Wow, now she is hot, I would like to date her”. Or maybe someone approached you in Match.com (affiliate link) and you soon found out his race was different, but you thought: “Well, what the heck, why not try it”.

But soon after you thought about it or begun dating, you started thinking about what role will your racial and cultural differences play in your relationship…

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Have you ever asked yourself how to pursue a man or whether you should even pursue one? Maybe you met a guy that you really liked, but was just not sure how to approach him. Maybe you saw him at your school, at your work place, your salsa dance class, or your local grocery story. Something about him made you think to yourself: “Wow, he is really cute” or maybe you even said to your friend: “Now that guy is hot”.

You begun to wonder: “Now how could I get…

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Dear Mikko, the question I have in my mind is “Should I text him?” Here is my situation.

I met this guy online 5 years ago. We have been pen paling ever since. He has always been very sweet but the problem then was that he lived in another state. We tried to meet in real life a few times when he moved to the same city that I now live, but it never quite seemed to work out.

But about a month ago I had two basketball tickets and invited…

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Have you ever been dating a guy and asked yourself: “Should I call him or should I not call him?”

If you are like most women, I am sure you have. You might have even read some books or articles about this very question. Maybe you have even read the book or saw the movie “He Is Just Not That Into You”, which probably just left you even more confused.

Whatever the case may be, here you are reading this article probably in conflict feeling like your thoughts are tearing you…

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Dear Mikko,

I am in a relationship with an older, once married divorced man. He is a total macho and a gentleman. For the most part we both travel a lot and we don’t get to see each other that often, maybe once every week or two weeks. When we decide to go out we compare calendars to try to find some time that works for both. Every time we do see each other we have sex like rabbits, in fact for the first couple of months I was…

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