Are you confessing: “I have cheated in my relationship” and now asking yourself what you should now do? Maybe you are a guy and you feel like you have just woken up from a bad dream and have found yourself now wondering: “Why in the world am I cheating my wife with my co-worker?” Or maybe you are a woman and what started as an innocent friendship with your ballroom dance partner has now turned into a full-blown affaire de Coeur. Whatever the case may be you are now confused as…

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Dear Mikko, I just read your article “Should You Date A Guy Who Is Already Taken?” on your blog post. I really like your relationship advice. This post particularly well described how I am feeling and what I am going through right now. I feel like the guy that I am seeing is not the perfect one for me, but still for some reason I cannot help but be attracted to him.

I met him at school. At the time we met he had not seen his girlfriend…

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Dear Mikko, what’s your take on salsa relationships? How can one have a successful relationship/marriage while being involved in salsa where there is so much flirtation, deception and sleeping around? Just yesterday I found out that one of my salsa friends wants to leave her husband because of an affair she is carrying on with her salsa partner (who is in a long term “committed” relationship with someone who he has already cheated on in the past with a salsa girl). And she’s already cheated on him…

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Dear Mikko,

I’ve met this guy online. We have had a series of chats and e-mail conversations. We seem to match surprisingly well, and all of the communications so far have gone smoothly. He seems like a very kind, sweet, considerate, and attentive man.

That is, until he told me about three friends of his who are still very dear to him, who all happen to be his exes. Should this alarm me? I just have not had experience with such an issue yet, and I don’t really know…

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Mikko, I chose my wife very logically. We matched up on nearly 100% of things: on our way of life, way of thinking, on our goals, and so on. I thought that this common ground was the most important for a long-lasting relationship. So, I decided she’d be the one. I chose that over the physical attraction. Never really felt any, but I thought this would not really matter. It was quite easy to pretend at the beginning. But after a couple years, I cheated on her with…

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So, you’ve found this great guy. He makes you laugh, he is good looking, he makes you feel like a woman, and you two have a fantastic time together. You can’t help but be in awe of how romantic he is and how he seems to understand you and what you think. It seems like you share so much. You have great conversations, and even the sex with him is out of this world. In your mind, you are thinking he is the perfect guy for you; he…

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To be fair, after having written the article about why men cheat, I decided to write a parallel article about women. If you read my theory about men cheating, you learned that both men and women often cheat out of ignorance, or – more politely, out of lack of awareness. To understand what I mean by cheating out of ignorance, please go back and read my previous article on this topic.

The interesting thing about women cheating is that while men have cheated on women for centuries, it…

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Have you ever wondered what is the real reason that men cheat? Maybe you are wondering why Tiger Woods cheated? Or maybe you are a woman reading this and have been cheated on before, or maybe you’re a guy curious about what I have to say. Whatever the reason, I’m sure by now you have probably come across some good and some not so good theories of why men cheat. I have certainly heard and read a lot about this, and unfortunately, have come across many shallow theories.…

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