Dear Mikko,

I once dated this one guy briefly. I have never slept with him, but there is a lot of sexual chemistry between us. We are now friends. He has a girlfriend, but sometimes we start chatting on Facebook and he is very flirtacious with me. He is very good looking and I know I have a soft spot for good-looking guys. He keeps reminding me how sexy I am and what a great time we used to have together. I feel like the conversations we are having are little inappropriate…

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Dear Mikko,

Why is it that men seem to come in only two extremes, either they are talking serious commitment after first coffee date or they’re just completely non-committal? Where’s the happy medium?

And the follow up question my friends and I have been asking lately is: “where’s the alpha male?” I dated this one guy a couple of years ago and we were hanging out at a restaurant having drinks. I went to the restroom and when I returned he told me that it looked like I had a message…

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Dear Mikko,

I am in a relationship with an older, once married divorced man. He is a total macho and a gentleman. For the most part we both travel a lot and we don’t get to see each other that often, maybe once every week or two weeks. When we decide to go out we compare calendars to try to find some time that works for both. Every time we do see each other we have sex like rabbits, in fact for the first couple of months I was…

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One of my regular readers asked a great question. What is the additional benefit of being in a relationship? It seems like more and more people today don’t believe in traditional marriages or relationships anymore. Many wait much longer to get married and some opt not to marry at all. Others are satisfied simply with being single. Some want only one nightstands or friends with benefits.

Yet others want even more than the traditional committed monogamous relationship, such a polyamourous relationship. Many after not finding their relationships satisfying…

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If you’ve been in business, owned your own company, or worked for a corporation, you have probably heard about the 80/20 principle before. Here’s what this could mean in various business settings: Twenty percent of your clients bring 80% of your business; or 20% of your employees do 80% of the work; or you get 80% of the productivity by concentrating on 20% of the most important things to do; and so on.

I recently heard about someone trying to figure out whether the 80/20 rule could apply…

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Dear Mikko,

I’ve met this guy online. We have had a series of chats and e-mail conversations. We seem to match surprisingly well, and all of the communications so far have gone smoothly. He seems like a very kind, sweet, considerate, and attentive man.

That is, until he told me about three friends of his who are still very dear to him, who all happen to be his exes. Should this alarm me? I just have not had experience with such an issue yet, and I don’t really know…

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Mikko, I chose my wife very logically. We matched up on nearly 100% of things: on our way of life, way of thinking, on our goals, and so on. I thought that this common ground was the most important for a long-lasting relationship. So, I decided she’d be the one. I chose that over the physical attraction. Never really felt any, but I thought this would not really matter. It was quite easy to pretend at the beginning. But after a couple years, I cheated on her with…

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Dear Mikko,

I recently went out on a first date with this wonderful guy. He took me to this nice restaurant and we had a great time. After the night was over, he agreed to call me over the next couple of days to plan another date. And he did. I was really excited.

However, because of our busy schedule, we could not find a time that suited both our schedules, since we are both busy professionals. So, he said he would just call later that week. Again, he…

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Mikko, I am a nice, good looking, responsible guy, make a good living, and even do Salsa dancing. I consider myself to be a good catch. Over the years, I have dated several different women and have generally not had any trouble finding nice dates. But now that I am getting little older, I am 34, I feel like I am really ready to settle down. For some reason, I am having a hard time attracting “Mrs. Right.” When I was a committed bachelor ☺ just…

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I am a friend of this girl at work, who just recently broke up with her boyfriend of four years. She is a really smart, confident, interesting, and funny girl, and I think we get along well. We started texting each other quite a bit, and I told her that I had feelings for her.

But she told me that my messaging felt a little overwhelming at times. I tried to explain that I just felt really comfortable around her and that I saw potential for us. We got…

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