Since I am going to a nice Jazz club for a date here in San Francisco tonight, I thought I would write a reminder to myself about how to compliment a woman .This way when I see her, I will be more likely to remember to give her a good compliment and to score some brownie points ☺.

But before I start, let me get something off my chest. The funny thing about being a dating coach is this. While I do have great knowledge and understanding about the dating process,…

I thought I would share a recent embarrassing moment from one of my recent dating adventures.

It is a lot of fun for me to write and coach others about relationships. And it is very easy for me to sit in my ivory tower to ditch out advice to those in need.

But I have recently realized that by simply writing about relationship and dating advice from a status of an expert somewhat removes my ability to share with you how I personally try to practice what I preach.

So this…

It is interesting to me how I sometimes begin to choose the topics for my blog posts based on the questions that I am personally struggling with in my life.

Or sometimes someone asks a question that seems to force me to become clearer about some personal issue to me that I am either dealing with or have dealt with in the past.

Having said this, it is no different with this post.

Without going to personal details, let me share something with you.

Friend of mine asked me not…

Dear Mikko,

Why is it that men seem to come in only two extremes, either they are talking serious commitment after first coffee date or they’re just completely non-committal? Where’s the happy medium?

And the follow up question my friends and I have been asking lately is: “where’s the alpha male?” I dated this one guy a couple of years ago and we were hanging out at a restaurant having drinks. I went to the restroom and when I returned he told me that it looked like I had a message…

Preview of Dr. John Gray’s newest PBS special and book Venus on Fire, Mars on Ice: Hormonal Balance – The Key to Life, Love and Energy.

As some of you may know, I have been following Dr. John Gray’s work very closely for about ten years now. And since the book Venus on Fire, Mars on Iceis not available for public yet (You can pre-order it by clicking here) I thought I would give you my pre-view and sneak peek about some of his new ideas to you.

It has been very…

Are you confessing: “I have cheated in my relationship” and now asking yourself what you should now do? Maybe you are a guy and you feel like you have just woken up from a bad dream and have found yourself now wondering: “Why in the world am I cheating my wife with my co-worker?” Or maybe you are a woman and what started as an innocent friendship with your ballroom dance partner has now turned into a full-blown affaire de Coeur. Whatever the case may be you are now confused as…

Ashanti Altovese interviews Mikko about the movie and book: “He Is Just Not That Into You” on their way to another salsa dance adventure with his urban mobile home. See the funny discussion that ensues. For more Mikko’s thoughts on the topic, read also his other article: “He Is Just Not That Into You, Or Is He?”

Share your thoughts. What has been your experience?

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Picture of my actual letter written in November 2000

Recently, I have gotten a lot of requests to expand on how to deal with a painful brake-up.

I decided I would share a very powerful method that I have personally used and continue to use every time life presents some challenges or painful events. I started using this method around the year 2000. It will help you transform any “negative” feelings you have to positive ones in only 15- 20 minutes.

As a side note, the reason I have quotations on…

Have you ever thought about dating someone with a different racial or cultural background? Maybe you saw her in a salsa dance lesson and thought to yourself: “Wow, now she is hot, I would like to date her”. Or maybe someone approached you in Match.com (affiliate link) and you soon found out his race was different, but you thought: “Well, what the heck, why not try it”.

But soon after you thought about it or begun dating, you started thinking about what role will your racial and cultural differences play in your relationship…

How to break up with someone? Have you ever wondered what is the best way to break up with your girlfriend/boyfriend or your husband/wife? Maybe you have been going out with your girlfriend for a couple of months and you have begun to feel that she is not the right one for you and you now want to break up with her. Or maybe you have been married to your husband for ten years and you have recognized that your relationship with him is not healthy and you want to…